crow

quarreled with mum for the past two days.. nvr quarreled with her for more than 3 or 4 yrs le.. i m nvr one who likes confrontation.. however there are things i feel i have to say.. in the end, i gave in to her.. as usual. not because i agreed to her ideas, but more because i love her.

i have learnt much wad love was in the past few days and i found that love is universal, be it conjugal love or parental love, the concept is no different..

in the chinese 250 idioms, one of the first few idioms is love thy house love thy crow.. i now finally realise the real meaning of this idiom.. the sentence we made to memorise "my brother's girlfriend likes stamp-collecting, love thy house love thy crow, he begin to like stamp-collecting as well" in a way has distorted the meaning of the idiom.. in the chinese tradition, crow is a bird of bad omen.. i believe that the true meaning of it is that if one love the house, he will not mind the crow with comes with it.. he is willing to tolerate it and accommodate it.

thats y there is the saying of love is blind.. there are two layers of meaning to it.. the first explanation is, eg, in a courtship, love is blind because one only see the good of another, not the bad.. therefore after marriage, the good begins to fade the the bad begins to surface.. with absence of true love, the union will not last long.. in the second, eg, in the presence of true love, the person is willing to be blind to the bad qualities of the other.. not that there is no such awareness, but rather there is the willingness to tolerate even though the other is unwilling or unable to change for the better.. in a long lasting relationship, this is wad that will lubricate and enable the engine to run longer distances..

i m enlightened of the gold standard in measuring love.. it is the ability to tolerate someone's behaviour, attitude or charater.. for his/her good has so much outweighed the bad, or simply, because i loved him/her..